By Ashleigh / Jan 17, 2023
We went to Costco so he could add me to his membership. The person helping us asked if my fiancé’s ex-wife was still the secondary person on the account, and my fiancé said yes. The person asked if he wanted to add me as an associate, and he said yes.
I know it’s just a minor membership issue, but it hurts that they’ve been divorced for over ten years, and she’s still listed as “wife” on his bank accounts and all other accounts and memberships.”
2. Leaving Everything Behind
My boyfriend of slightly over a year has completed his studies and gotten his first job in a new country.
He wants me to leave my job (and career) and everything I’m familiar with and move to a new country/continent to be with him.
I feel like he expects me to sacrifice my career and social life and start from scratch in a new place with him, even though he has no real investment or commitment in this relationship.
I told him that I see getting engaged as a sign that he is invested in the relationship and that I want to be engaged before I give up everything I know to follow him to a new place.
However, he completely disagrees with me and thinks it’s outrageous for me to suggest this. We are at a complete stalemate with this argument.
My girlfriend told me she wants to go to a nudist beach with some of her female friends. She asked me if I wanted to join them, but I’m not comfortable doing something like that.
However, I can’t shake the feeling that this is something you shouldn’t do when you’re in a committed relationship.
She said she’s going to hang out with her friends and avoid any sketchy men who might try something (at least she is aware this might happen), and I have no reason to worry she’ll cheat.
But I’m just not sure. I can’t quite pinpoint why, but this feels very wrong to me.
4. Don’t Know What To Do
In the 90s, I dated a high schoolmate for a couple of years from when I was 13-15, and he was 14-16.
We had a terrible relationship, he dated another girl on the side, and I was psycho-obsessive and clingy.
As a side effect of being obsessive, I took a lot of pictures of him during an era when there were not a lot of pictures being taken. If you were around in the 90s, you know that we generally only got photographed once a year for school photos and that was it.
After his family moved and we broke up, life went on, but then he passed away in a car crash at 20.
I’ve often thought about sending photos to his mom, but the idea made me nervous. Now that I’m archiving all my old photos, this has come up again.
I looked her up on Facebook and saw that she was posting about the pain of losing a child just 30 minutes ago.
I’m determined to send her these photos because it’s been weighing on me for years and now they are digital. However, I’m still worried about causing problems.
About five months ago, I met someone online, and we quickly connected over our shared interests and compatibility. We confided in each other and shared intimate details about our lives.
Both of us had recently ended serious relationships – my 7-year relationship ended about ten months ago, and his 4-year relationship ended four months before we met.
Since then, we’ve been in constant communication, texting, and FaceTiming for hours every day, with only a few nights off each week. Despite the distance, I’m planning a visit to see him in Ireland as I found an affordably-priced flight.
We were both very excited about my visit and perhaps a bit impulsive as I booked the flight only two months after meeting him.
He had told his family about me, shared photos of them, and we had planned all the activities and sights I would see with him during my visit.
However, at 5:30 this morning, I received a video message and a long text from him telling me that his ex-girlfriend had been in a serious car accident and he would have to cancel my visit. I have begged him not to cancel and have tried to be supportive of what he is going through.
So far, he has only said that he will try to make it work and that he needs to sort out this situation. I am now worried about what to do as I am scheduled to fly to a country where I don’t know anyone in just seven days.
Should I cancel the flight? I have told my friends about my trip, but haven’t mentioned that I was meeting someone.
I am feeling overwhelmed and unsure of what to do. I feel sick to my stomach and like a fool for believing everything he told me. I also feel like everything he said to me may have been a lie.
6. Keeping It In The Family
I have known my girlfriend and her sister for a long time. We were in an on-and-off relationship as teenagers and have now been in a stable but troubled relationship for eight years.
I have always liked her sister because she has similar personality traits, a shared sense of humor, and compatible ways of thinking as me.
I also find her very attractive. However, I have always viewed my feelings as mere lust and something that I could control. Her sister has had some bad luck with guys in the past (I’m not sure if it’s because she has high standards or because she is shy and introverted).
A couple of years ago, she had her first intimate encounter with someone. When my girlfriend told me about it, I realized that I felt bad thinking about her sister dating someone.
When this guy eventually broke up with her, I felt relieved. This situation left me feeling confused, sick, and ashamed of myself, but it only lasted for a few weeks.
Now, a few years later, I find myself in a similar situation that feels even worse – my girlfriend’s sister found a guy three months ago, and my girlfriend found out about it a month ago.
Of course, she immediately told me and is happy for her sister, but I couldn’t help feeling bad and maybe even a little jealous and ashamed of myself.
I haven’t seen her sister in a few weeks and now don’t even want to (although we talked on the phone and she told me candidly that she misses me and always thinks about me, which didn’t help at all).
I don’t want to hear about her new guy or meet them together. Just thinking about her being intimate with him makes my heart sink.
I hate the idea of going on a double date with my girlfriend and her sister and her new guy, but I know that it will probably happen at some point.
I don’t know how I would handle that situation. I’m not sure what is going on with me. All I know is that it hurts a lot and I feel guilty about my girlfriend.
My relationship with my girlfriend has always been turbulent, with a lot of fights and resentment. I don’t know if I am unconsciously trying to sabotage our relationship by falling in love with the wrong person or if I have genuinely developed feelings for her sister over the years and now those feelings are coming to the surface.
I know that what I did was manipulative and deceptive by omission, and I understand that it reflects poorly on my personality. I feel quite guilty about it.
Here’s how it happened: my girlfriend is very critical about music. I make music on my own, but I never felt like she gave me honest criticism of it, even though I begged her to be blunt and honest with me.
She always said my music was great but never had anything else to say about it. However, when she critiques other music, she is extremely detailed and thorough in her evaluations.
I really value her thoughts on music, and all I really wanted was for her to do the same for my music.
However, she would always just say my music was “great” without offering much in the way of constructive criticism, and I didn’t believe her due to the stark contrast in the way she would critique other music.
One day, I had her listen to a track without telling her that it was my own. I simply said, “Hey, check out this track,” without mentioning that it was mine.
She gave a detailed evaluation of the track, saying that it was the work of someone who had no idea what they were doing.
8. Too Fast
When my girlfriend broke up with me, she promised me that she still loved me and that she wouldn’t pursue anyone else. However, shortly after breaking up, she became intimate with another guy. Is it justified for me to be upset about this?
My girlfriend and I recently broke up due to “feelings she didn’t know how to deal with.” While we were together, she always told me how special intimacy was to her and that I was the only person she ever enjoyed it with.
It took us a while after we started dating to do it for the first time. So, when she broke up with me, she promised that she just needed to get her feelings in check and that she wasn’t going to try to get with anyone.
Fast-forward a couple of days, and I find out that she was intimate with the exact guy she said she wouldn’t try to get with barely a day after we broke up.
I felt disgusted, sad, and angry when I found out about this. It made it seem like our relationship never really meant anything since intimacy was something that I thought was the foundation of our relationship.
She told me that “people make mistakes,” that she “didn’t initiate it,” and that she “still only wants me.” These explanations didn’t change how I feel, and I’m still upset.
9. Marriage Fever
We had previously discussed getting married a few times and always agreed that it would be something we would do once it became financially beneficial (in terms of taxes and insurance). Marriage wasn’t a priority for either of us.
In October, we had a child together, but we were unsure if things would work out between us. We didn’t plan on having a child – I had some complications with my birth control and accidentally got pregnant, but I couldn’t go through with a procedure to get rid of it.
He respected my decision and stayed with me. We fought quite a bit, and I always had in mind that I would have to raise our son all by myself.
But my boyfriend is an absolutely amazing, patient, and affectionate father and I’m very proud of him. And ever since the birth of our son, I’ve started to have this desire to marry him.
I don’t quite understand it since marriage was never important to me, but I would be so proud to have his last name and be his wife.
I don’t want or need a big wedding – just a signature and maybe a ring (although even that isn’t necessary). We were both somewhat pressured into having a child together, so I’m not sure if I should tell him about my desire to marry him.
He has always been hesitant when it comes to making big decisions, and I don’t want him to feel like he has to do it to make me happy.
Should I tell him about my wish or keep it to myself and wait until marriage becomes financially beneficial for both of us?
10. Changing Passwords
My fiancé of 2 years has started changing his phone password every day. We used to know each other’s passwords, and it wasn’t a big deal, but now that he’s changing it every day, it’s making me anxious.
He also shields his password from me when he’s using his phone. I have trust issues from the past and have looked through his phone a few times, but I keep finding him consistently kissing up to his baby mama, which makes me unhappy.
While I don’t necessarily think he’s cheating on me, this behavior is causing me concern.
11. Not Such a Blast From the Past
An important background fact: my boyfriend and I broke up before and we recently got back together. During the time we were apart (about 2 years), he was seeing someone else, and they were together for 8 months-ish.
My boyfriend and I go a long way back, we had been together for 6 years before the separation. When my boyfriend was with his ex, he surprised her with a cake and planned an overseas trip for her on her birthday.
My birthday is coming up, and I have asked him if he would be interested in going away for a short trip with me. He was iffy about it and I feel slighted and jealous that he wasn’t excited about the prospect of travelling together with me.
I know I shouldn’t be comparing because at the end of the day, he made the choice to be with me. So that means he cares for me more than his ex. But this has been bugging me.
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12. Should I Evict Her From My Heart?
My girlfriend and I have been dating for more than a year. We were both at a point where we wanted a nicer place.
While it wasn’t something we could afford on our own, we could together. We moved into a new place that had room for both of us.
And then she quit her job without talking to me first. And hasn’t paid rent yet. She should have residual income coming in at the end of the month.
She’s been spending all day sleeping and watching Netflix. She’s also had crazy mood swings and throws temper tantrums when I ask her to help around the house.
I can’t afford this place without her. The two of us working full-time would have given her money to relax with. She can pay, but this is not what I signed up for. I don’t know if she is depressed, bipolar, or lazy.
I have tried to be encouraging and helpful. I have tried to talk her into going to see a doctor, and she won’t. I just don’t know what to do…
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13. Party of None
My fiancée and I are recently engaged and have been together since we were 18. She’s not the bridezilla type, but she has imagined a nice wedding.
She’s not very social and has no sisters/female cousins, and as a result she has no bridesmaids. Zero. I, on the other hand, have a solid group of guys to be groomsmen and they’re already talking bachelor party.
My fiancée won’t have a bridal shower or bachelorette party, or anyone to go dress shopping with, etc. It’s really bringing her down and she won’t even talk about weddings.
Once she said between sniffles, “can’t we just sign a paper at a courthouse?” But I know neither of us really want that.
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14. He Liked It, But He Put the Wrong Ring on It
I have strong suspicions that my fiancée (we’ve been dating for three years, engaged for 9 months) doesn’t like the engagement ring I bought her.
Before buying it, we discussed the type of ring she would want, and we quickly realized that the one she would most like would cost an absurd amount of money.
She eventually picked one out with smaller diamonds at a much more reasonable price.
The only problem is that I am catching her not wearing it with her friends or on business trips (she is relatively high up in her organization).
I even caught her this morning returning from a business trip wearing a fake one with a huge diamond in it. I believe that she loves me and isn’t sneaking around; I just think that she’s embarrassed by her ring.
This concerns me because I do not want to spend a fortune on an engagement ring, but I am also concerned about marrying a “princess” who is embarrassed by a more modest ring.
15. The Worst Breakages Are the Ones You Know
I was with my ex off and on for three years, sometimes it was an open relationship. I had one boundary at all times of our relationship, and that was that he was never to hook up with my three closest friends.
After lots of breakups and sleeping together but not being together, I realized this relationship was never going to end unless I moved on.
So, I did and started dating other people (while still sleeping with my ex). It started to get serious with one of the guys I was seeing, so I told my ex we could no longer hook up.
Even though I was now in a new committed relationship, I still had feelings for my ex for the first two months, but was trying to move on. I have been with my new boyfriend for 5 months and I very much love him, but I just found out my ex hooked up with one of my best friends three months ago.
Meaning, not only did my ex break his promise to me, but my friend hooked up with him while I was still healing/moving on from the relationship.
16. I Stole Everything but His Heart
I got caught shoplifting (first time offense, no police report), and the guy I was dating for the past 4 months decided that he “doesn’t know” me.
He broke up with me a few days later on Valentine’s Day after I told him I loved him for the first time.
He said that he needed some time to think about our relationship. When I asked him how much, he said “one year.”
He later changed his mind to one month, but wants to remain friends during that month to re-evaluate whether he wants to re-enter a relationship with me. This has been really hard on me, and I’ve gone through a lot of emotions in the last 4 days.
I’ve told him how upset it made me, and begged him to be more forgiving, but he doesn’t seem very interested in getting back together in the long run. I don’t think he’s sincere about the reconsidering thing. I think he just wants to stay friends.
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17. When Cuddle Time Becomes Cry Time Too Many Times
Charlie and I have been together about five months now, and things really are pretty good. No major fights despite the occasional disagreement, and I’m genuinely happy being with him.
That said, his anxiety has started coming out really horribly during intimacy, and I’m not really sure what I can possibly do about it.
He has a diagnosis and a regular therapist, and intellectually, I know he cannot help it when those nervous thoughts creep out. I can deal with it from day-to-day and try to be the best support I can be.
But lately, intimate time has literally devolved into me having to lay there and comfort him 3 out of the 4 times we’re in bed.
The act itself is good. No complaints. But if I’m not vocal enough, he descends into calling himself a “stupid failure who can’t please me.” And then I hold him, assure him he’s not, and repeatedly tell him I’m not leaving him.
If I’m too vocal, I’m “faking it to make him feel better,” and once again, it’s my job to lay there and comfort him.
Either way, we’re done for the night. I came out late. Charlie was my first everything. Being romantic with him is a large place of vulnerability for me, and I just don’t know what to do when this happens.
I want to be supportive and understand it’s not “about me.” He can’t help mental illness. We need to talk about it. But I’m afraid of sending him spiraling.
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18. Off the Grid
OK I know this will sound kinda clingy but hear me out. I check my S.O.’s location every so often when we are meeting up.
Just for reference of when I should leave to meet him, not because I want to know where he is 24/7.
On some occasions (randomly), he won’t appear on my Snapchat map, which is odd because I can usually see him on the map. He is absolutely wonderful, and I know he cares about me, but it weirds me out a little bit.
It happened again last night after we parted. We’ve been dating for like half a year (if that makes any difference).
I don’t know if I should be concerned about his sporadic disappearances, or if it’s potentially an app glitch. He has never given me a reason not to trust him, ever.
19. Can Pay for Love
I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for five years. I am always working on making the distance “shorter,” but still it’s hard…I am a very devoted person and I love my boyfriend, maybe too much.
Visiting my boyfriend is actually the only thing that gives me satisfaction, and also finishing my studies to end the long distance thing is my main objective. Today, he confessed me that 3 weeks ago, he slept with a prostitute.
I tried to take it as a good thing that he told me, but then I started to feel useless and really irrelevant for him…he slept with this woman when I needed him more. That weekend, a very important person in my life passed away.
I was trying to ask for attention, and he was out doing that. Today he told me this just because I saw a Tinder notification on his phone, and I asked. I don’t know what I am looking for, but now I feel alone and in a foreign country (his country).
He is playing games in the other room and I am in another trying to understand what to do.
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20. If Only Jealous Outbursts Were Air Miles
My boyfriend told me to clear my calendar this weekend because he wanted to surprise me with a trip to his hometown—something I’ve been asking to do for a few months.
All of his old friends were going to be back this weekend, and he was really excited to introduce me to all of them.
He picked me up after work so we could head out of town, and that’s when I mentioned that I ran into my neighbor again.
My neighbor hits on me every time he sees me. He’s attractive, but I always make it clear I have a boyfriend. I probably made a bigger deal out of it than I should’ve.
Honestly, I just mentioned it because I thought it was funny. I realize now that I was probably just trying to make my boyfriend a little jealous, which was childish.
My boyfriend was in a really excited mood for this trip, but he got really quiet and seemed annoyed with me.
He said I bring this guy up “all the time” and he’s “freaking sick of it.” I’ve only brought this guy up a couple of times in the past. He turned the car around and said he’s “over this.”
I begged to go with him because I was excited all week for this, and I wanted to spend time with him, but he wasn’t having it. I bawled all the way home and he didn’t care. He dropped me off at my place with my bags and I haven’t heard from him since.
21. The Office Is No Place for Second Chances at Love
I started a new job six months ago, two months after my divorce. I eventually developed feelings for my boss. I don’t know if it was because I felt alone, but I knew he had a lot of qualities I sought in a man. I told him how I felt two weeks ago.
He told me he was in a strong relationship, which turned out to be true. He did comfort me with a hug and told me he wasn’t shutting me down or anything, it just wasn’t appropriate. The assistant manager found out about it and brought it to HR.
The boss and I are forbidden to be in the same room, and he’s not allowed to hug me for a bit. I was naive and could have lost my job and got lucky in this case.
After that incident, it’s been hard to move on. We treat each other as if it never happened.
I’ve been trying to distance myself a bit, but he ends up being near me somehow. He comes up and asks if everything is okay if I am alone or asks simple questions that he could have asked other co-workers.
He tends to buy lunch for the office more often now. I usually decline, but he ends up persuading me.
The whole boundaries thing is a bit inconvenient because it requires me to send other co-workers to fetch some paperwork in a room if he’s alone in it. I told my boss this, and he completely misunderstood me.
He acted as if I was accusing him of crossing his boundaries towards me. So, I had to explain myself, and he assured me that everything will go back to normal eventually.
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22. Head Over Heels Into Annoyance
My girlfriend can be very clumsy sometimes. Most of the time, it doesn’t matter that much, like dropping a few spoons or hitting her toe on a chair (she has myopia and uses glasses so that doesn’t help). But she’s also broken a few of my things.
She once dropped an Xbox controller and the battery case broke, so it’s partially malfunctioning now. She once dropped a ceramic plate, and a glass of water. She tripped over a small table I was assembling and damaged the wood a bit.
A few days ago, she was using my computer and dropped one side of the sliding table that holds the keyboard. It hit the case, and the computer shut down immediately. I got really angry and told her “Can you not break something for once?”
I could see in her face that she was really hurt by it, but I was really irritated, and she left the room while I tried to get it working normally. A few minutes later it was working, and I realized how hurt she was. She was in the living room sitting in silence.
I apologized and she apologized too, crying. I told her I really love her, but she has to do something to stop dropping and tripping over stuff.
23. Too Chill to Be True?
If I visit my female friend and go to her place alone, my girlfriend is fine with it. If somebody else is hitting on me, my girlfriend is laughing and saying she trusts me, so no need to feel any jealousy.
My ex wrote me recently and I asked my girlfriend if it is ok if I replied, since my ex was trying to get back together several times.
She said sure, and never even asked me what we talked about. As if it never happened. My colleague was hitting on me openly and texting all the time.
My girlfriend didn’t care at all, even if I replied to her and we had some internal jokes already. I don’t get it. I am not a jealous type, but some situations would make me feel uncomfortable even though I trust her completely.
24. Eating for Two, Loving for None
Has anyone else experienced this? I love my wife and have been happily married for three years, with a couple years of dating before that.
We had a very active bedroom life that had dwindled somewhat from peak, but it was still healthy prior to her getting pregnant with our first child.
Ever since she started to show, I feel like I have become pretty turned off to the idea of intimacy. Has nothing to do with the health aspects or feeling like I would “hurt the baby” as far as I can tell.
I just find myself noticing other women in my day to day life a lot more and finding myself far more attracted to random strangers. Quick Google search didn’t reveal a ton (quite the opposite really), and I’ve heard from friends that a lot of them felt like second trimester was an extremely active time for them.
25. From Hot Score to Keeping Score
We haven’t been married long. A little over a year. I have been getting tired a little from when she blames me for things, but I am not sure I just need to do better and work harder or just don’t know what I am doing wrong.
She usually tells me “I didn’t mean it, I was just mad,” but it is wearing me down a little. My wife keeps track of who did the dishes last, and gets mad if she ends up having to do dishes two times in a row.
Granted, I should have done the dishes, but I just came back from work and I am really tired, so I want to sit a little before doing the dishes. I get hit with a “Why do I have to clean this stuff when I cooked?”
Another example of how she would be really mad at me and I would be at work, but she would message how she hates cleaning after the dog and how she shouldn’t be doing this on her time off.
When I told her I was sorry and I would help clean when I got home, she changed the subject and told me “It’s not that, it’s because I wish you were home so we could spend more time together.”
I don’t know if I am being an insensitive husband or I just need to do more chores, or if she is just very emotional and I shouldn’t let it bother me.
26. Surf (and My Passion for You) Down
I have been with my wife for 10 years, since high school. I have never been with or dated another woman, ever. I always thought I’d never find a girl that was like me.
I don’t like to leave the house much (only to go to the gym and surf), and all I do is play video games.
Recently, I met a girl who was exactly like me to a scary degree. We like the same stuff and basically are the same person.
Now, I have no romantic interest in this woman, but it has showed me that someone like that does exist, and it has thrown my whole perspective into whack.
For background, I recently have accomplished some of my life’s goals. I live on the beach, have a very good job, and all that’s left is to have a family, which I know my late dad would really want.
I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to hurt my wife, but I don’t see a future with her anymore.
27. Not Into Outsourcing
I’m a 28-year-old male and I am currently at a crossroads with my relationship. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 8 months, and it’s gone well.
We have had arguments here and there, but for the most part we are able to work through them.
Here’s the problem: Recently, she was telling me how she and her friends were arguing about giving birth, and how she wanted to have a surrogate birth.
At the time, this caught me off guard, and I didn’t say anything. Well, it’s been a week and now I still can’t shake that she would want that.
That is not something I would want at all as I am not comfortable with someone else delivering my baby.
I understand it is her body, but bringing someone else in to help us start a family is not something I’m ok with. We have not been dating long, but we also have to start considering these things that factor into how committed we are.
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28. The Rest Test Is Loyalty
A couple months ago, I ended up in the hospital due to a condition (epididymitis) that is generally caused by an STI/STD. It is possible to get it in other non-STD ways.
However, I never had any partners before my current girlfriend, and she claims I’m her first as well. We’ve been together for about 5 months.
So, when I was diagnosed, I had told her to get an STD test, which caused a big ruckus because she said she never had been with anyone else and would never do that to me. Anyway, she said she got one anyway from a local clinic right away.
She told me if they don’t call her within the next 2-3 days, that means she’s clean and has nothing to worry about. She told me she never got the call, which meant she was clean.
She said later on she also called them back to confirm. Now you may be asking, why didn’t I get tested too? Well, I went straight to the ER when this all happened due to pain from the condition.
And they took urine and lots of blood, so I’d assumed they’d run all the tests necessary to make a diagnosis. However, the ER doctor began an antibiotic treatment right away.
So, a few weeks later on a follow-up appointment, I discover no tests for STDs were actually done, and since I’d gone through the treatment I’d obviously show up negative regardless if I were to get tested now.
So, I’m not sure if medical malpractice was done here since they started treatment without proper results. But that’s a different discussion. So as of right now, I don’t know what caused my condition.
Whether it was an STD cause or a non-STD cause. My only way of making sure is seeing my girlfriend’s results with my own eyes.
I don’t know how to ask her this in the sincerest way possible to get peace of mind. I genuinely love her, but this has been on the back of my mind for weeks now and you can never be too sure.
29. The Grass Is Always Greener in the Fantasy Relationship
It’s been 4 years. We haven’t had intimacy in over a year. We live together in a city where we know a limited amount of other people. I am financially reliant on him. I have developed two major crushes on other men over the course of the last year.
The first: I recovered from the crush with only minimal cheating (if that can exist? He touched my breasts once.) And the second: he rebuffed me entirely, but I still miss him with an intensity that feels more than platonic. Is this evidence enough to break up with my boyfriend?
He is aware of both crushes and he loves me so much that he chooses to stay with me. There have been weeks where I’ve felt complete love for my boyfriend at a time.
He is insistent, though, that he never wants to get married, and we still don’t have an intimate dynamic that either of us are happy with.
I fantasize about my friends, people I actively want to fall in love with me. This impulse I have to fall in love with other people might say more about the deficits in my own emotional health than it does about the long-term devastation of breaking up with the love of my life.
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30. Out of This Realm
We are engaged, in love, getting married this summer (YAY!) after dating for 2 years. I love her and am grateful to have this amazing woman in my life. She’s the best, literally (to me).
She is very intelligent, educated, and she’s basically the most “normal,” straight-laced person around. She’s not a “goth” by any stretch of the imagination.
Despite her normality (whatever that means), and despite even being a committed Southern Baptist, she is very much into what I would describe as “occult things.” She has always absolutely loved horror stories, movies, games, anything that is spooky and creepy.
This has extended into her reading about other occult and new age-y practices like Tarot (which she sometimes does with me); Ouija boards, which she uses frequently with her friends and me sometimes; and many other things in that vein.
She has a privileged background. She is over-educated and under-worked, and these things provide an intense excitement and thrill, which she feels like she is otherwise lacking in mundane life.
That’s how she has explained to me why she is interested in this. I just can’t help but be creeped out by this, and I honestly wish that she would stop being into this stuff.